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Being a workplace mentor

Mentoring is how trade knowledge gets passed on — and an investment in the future capability of your team and your industry.

What's mentoring?

Mentoring is an essential tool for passing on wisdom, developing talent and strengthening every part of your business. It's not just support for the apprentice — it's an investment in the future capability of your team and industry.

Apprenticeships can be challenging: pressure to perform, a lot to learn, and often a steep adjustment to the world of work. Mentoring helps apprentices navigate all of that. A good mentor is someone they trust — someone who listens, gives perspective and helps them find their own way forward.

Mentoring is not managing

It's important to understand that mentoring is different from managing or training. A mentor focuses on the apprentice's personal growth — offering encouragement, sharing experience, and helping them build confidence. A manager or trainer is focused on tasks, targets, and performance. Both roles are important, but they serve different purposes and work best when clearly understood and separated.

"My mentor always has ideas for how I could approach things differently or get support when I need it."

"My manager helps me too — but they've got a lot on, and I don't want to seem like I'm falling behind."

How the mentor and manager roles compare

Making mentoring work

Mentoring takes commitment. The relationship builds through regular one-on-one conversations focused on listening, reflecting and growing confidence. For mentoring to succeed it needs time, structure and a clear separation from performance management.

Research shows that apprentices thrive when their mentor is not also their direct line manager — and mentors do better when they aren't also responsible for workplace outcomes.

When mentoring is done well:

  • The apprentice builds confidence and resilience.
  • The mentor sharpens their own leadership and communication.
  • The business gains a more capable, committed team.

Mentoring benefits

Mentoring strengthens every element of an apprenticeship, from skill development to motivation and retention. You can expect to see improvement in:

  • Skills through commitment to training
  • Quality of service/product
  • Productivity
  • Engagement
  • Retention
  • Health and safety

Mentors often find that supporting someone else's development sharpens their own communication, leadership and problem-solving skills.

Anyone can mentor

Any worker can mentor others, with real benefits to everyone involved.

Senior team members

Job satisfaction often comes from making a meaningful contribution. Mentoring lets senior staff pass on knowledge, stay engaged and feel valued; it retains hard-earned expertise and supports succession planning.

Mid-career professionals

Mentoring helps experienced workers grow beyond technical roles, building communication, leadership and coaching skills and often reigniting a sense of purpose.

Early-career staff

Mentoring builds confidence and reinforces learning, giving a sense of responsibility and developing empathy and communication. It helps if the mentor has been an apprentice themselves.

The apprentice support framework

Creating cross-cultural support

Mentoring helps all parties understand and bridge cultural differences. The Māori and Pasifika Trades Training Initiative (MPTT), which includes mentoring, has been hugely successful in creating great apprenticeship opportunities. Competenz also offers Pasifika study groups and learner support — contact your training advisor.

Top tips for effective mentoring

Time management

  • Set agreed times to meet and stick to them.
  • Agree how you will communicate in between meetings and set parameters around that.

Set clear ownership of responsibilities

  • Involve the apprentice/trainee in selecting a mentor.
  • Set the expectation that the mentor drives the relationship initially.
  • Agree confidentiality parameters (e.g. with assessors/trainers).

Business-wide commitment

  • Champion mentorship at senior management level.
  • Ensure mentoring and management are distinct.
  • Treat mentoring time as work time for all parties.
  • Award a mentor of the year.
  • Share stories between mentors.
  • Incorporate mentoring at all levels.
  • Understand and support language, literacy and numeracy demands.
Planning mentoring for success

Mentor's toolkit

Active listening

Active listening means to listen fully and aim to understand what is being said. A good tip is to repeat what you think you're hearing to make sure you're on the right track.

A mentoring conversation

GROW model

GROW is a simple, practical framework that helps structure conversations. The four steps:

The GROW model

1. Goal — What do you want to achieve?

Set a clear, specific goal (short-term like completing a task, or long-term like gaining a new skill). Good goals are SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound.

2. Reality — Where are you now?

Explore the current situation: What's happening right now? What progress has been made? What's standing in the way? This separates fact from assumption.

3. Options — What could you do?

Encourage a wide range of ideas, even those that seem out of reach. The aim is to open up thinking, not jump to a solution — this builds the apprentice's own problem-solving skills.

4. Will / Way Forward — What will you do next?

Decide the next step: what action, by when, and what support is needed. The apprentice should own the action — this builds motivation and accountability.

Always assume the person you're mentoring has the ability to find their own answers. Your role is to support, guide and unlock their potential — not to direct, fix or control the outcome.

Communication styles

Everyone learns and communicates differently. The VARK model identifies four common learning styles:

  • Visual (diagrams, charts, pictures)
  • Auditory (listening and discussion)
  • Reading/Writing (written instructions, note-taking)
  • Kinesthetic (hands-on learning, real-life examples)

There's no right or wrong style — most people use a mix, but knowing what works best for your apprentice makes a big difference when planning training or giving feedback.

Numeracy and literacy support

Support is available for learners who have literacy and numeracy challenges. Contact your training advisor, who can access specialist support.

Top tips for mentoring apprentices with learning difficulties

  • Show acceptance and respect.
  • You cannot and should not try to solve all of their problems.
  • Be a good listener and ask key questions, but allow them to tell their story.
  • Encourage them to take ownership and create their own solutions.
  • Contact your training advisor for specific interventions and support.

Code of ethics

Competenz's code of ethics for apprentice mentoring relationships (adapted from Ako Aotearoa and the New Zealand Coaching and Mentoring Centre):

  • Mentor and apprentice participation is voluntary.
  • Both parties respect individual and cultural differences.
  • Either party may end the relationship, but should do so positively and respectfully.
  • Both treat the relationship with confidentiality.
  • Mentors may disclose information only if explicitly agreed with the apprentice or if there is serious danger.
  • Mentors hold the safety and care of the apprentice as utmost while ensuring their own wellbeing.
  • The mentor remains non-judgmental and helps the apprentice articulate and achieve goals.
  • Neither party intrudes into off-limits areas.
  • Both respect each other's time and obligations and don't impose unreasonable demands.
  • Both respect the position of third parties.
  • The mentor operates within the limits of their experience and expertise.
  • Both are honest about how the mentoring relationship is working.
  • Mentors keep notes and records private and confidential.

First session checklist

  • Secure a private place to meet.
  • Schedule an uninterrupted time (30–60 mins).
  • Write a bulleted list of what you are going to talk about.
  • Print a mentoring agreement to work on together and sign at the end of the meeting.

Mentoring guidelines

  • Complete a mentoring agreement with your apprentice.
  • Record each mentoring session using the record sheet.
  • Meet regularly.
  • Know the difference between being a manager and a mentor.
  • Build trust, be open and available as agreed.
  • Respect confidentiality.
  • Provide positive feedback and encourage realistic thinking.
  • Show you were listening by what you say.
  • Ask focused questions.
  • Set goals and explore options to challenge their ideas.
  • Encourage them to make and commit to career goals.
  • Promote action.
  • Use the GROW model.
  • Set SMART objectives.

Mentoring top tips

  • Organise and plan your mentoring meetings.
  • Put your mentor hat on — listen, ask questions and encourage.
  • Ask about their life as well as their work (take the lead but talk about their issues, not yours).
  • Be positive — increase their self-esteem and self-confidence.
  • Confidentiality and trust are vital.
  • Record key actions and follow up.

What kind of mentor will you be?

What kind of mentor will you be?